When a friend betrays you:7 steps to heal and move forward

Primarily we cannot meet anyone unless and until we have any old karmic accounts with them. In order to set it right and balance it out it is extremely crucial to meet the person, if we like it or not.

Everybody in this world is here to fulfil the same karmic accounts. They come, they teach a lesson we can hold for life and they leave. Every individual we deal with has their own swabhaav (nature) and it is extremely selfish on our part to have them change their swabhaav for us. No absolutely not

If we have this situation in our mind “She/ he have been friends with me for 15 years and still betrayed me”

Yes they did but that might also mean that this is what you did to them in the past birth.

Whenever we face any betrayals from our closest people:

It has to be a 3 step process of dealing with it

Firstly, acceptance- accepting that whatever happened has happened and I should not be crying over it rather rejoice that my karmic accounts have gotten settled or the higher shall take care of the same

Secondly, gratitude- be grateful to the person who did that to you and tell Thank you for you taught me a lesson which can be etched to my heart for the longest time

Thirdly, forgiveness- kindly forgive the person so you never ever hold any grudges back Say “I forgive you and I let you go”

Never ever gossip about that person to other.

One more very important thing is that we have to know that the friends we made in school are not the definite send of friend we’ll be having throughout lifetime. We grow old, we mature, friendships do fall apart and it is all a journey we have to make a choice. Not that we did not want to have that friendships but we do outgrow in bonds.

Please know that it has happened because it had to and if it was wrong in your opinion please know that there is the higher cosmic right there to set it all right.

Nobody in this world can ever be wrong it is just their swabhaav. Betrayal, love and care is an integral part of the bonds and relationships we are a part of and it is our aasakti attached with the person.

You have to continue practicing the same and see oneness in all. Continue to be in shukrana and maafi bhaav so this can help you not take any baggage or grudge against the person.

It is essential to understand to not fit into places you have outgrown so take it as a lesson and move forward.